My Eureka Moment – I understand the primary cause of unhappiness

For those of you who have been following my blog posts or know me well you will have gathered that I have been on a journey of discovery over the years;  I liken it to the story of Siddhartha, the famous, mythical recounting of the journey of enlightenment of the Buddha, who the story outlines went through a series of experiences and challenges before finally realising the understanding the truth and source of suffering.

As I know on a more practical level, from being employed in factories to solve “unsolvable problems”, getting to root cause of any problem is a challenging exercise but involves a few key approaches:

1)      Make sure you really understand the exact problem. To do this you need to be very specific on the actual problem and be hyper attentive, detailed and observant about the nature of the problem, until you totally understand the nature of the problem.  Not only will this ensure that you have a clear understand the problem you are trying to solve, but you will also be able to prove you have reached root cause as it will be able to explain the fll nature of the problem and alleviate the issues highlighted in point 2

2)      You need to understand that it is human nature to be side tracked by symptoms fixes, conjecture and opinions that side track your ability to find the root cause.  In very complex, multi-dimensional problems, it is very easy to get sidetracked by a relatively small lever.  The optimal way to overcome this is to firstly be able to build a clear and accurate model of all the factors that link to the problem you are trying to solve and have clarity on how they all interact to determine the critical levers, then to be able to measure the actual characteristics of these levers v what they should be doing.  You can then identify the levers and test these against the nature of the problem you are trying to solve.  You will have cracked it if you can accurately explain all of the problem as outlined in 1).  Of course, this is much easier in scientific, measurable problem arena and much harder in more esoteric problems, nevertheless the same principles can apply to guide to root cause.

My deep experience in problem solving, I now realise I have been applying over the last 10 years to a problem that was so complex, it has been an epic marathon that has tested me to the very core….

The problem being: what is the root cause of unhappiness?  I will be sharing with you my journey of discovery, the realisations  I have made along the way, and the root cause that I have discovered.

I believe that if enough people read this journey and then take the action I propose, the entire will go through a magnificent positive social change for individuals, all other  beings and the entire planet we live on.

Enjoy!

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Being Your True Self

Being Your True Self

This is a really interesting topic for me.  We are members of a tribe in our natural state, and this does create a natural urge to fit in to our community, and within reason this is a healthy trait as being a loner is not a great place to be.

Probably a better question to ask yourself is the degree to which you lose your true self in the process and compromise your own realness and authenticity.  It is my belief that if this is too compromised (in order to fit in), then you will in fact achieve the opposite, as at an energetic level, people will be unable to connect at a humanistic level as you, in its extreme level, have become unhuman, an actor or a charade of sorts.

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Being Your True Self

Achieving without attachment

Interesting for me as I see from afar my nephew grow up.  Very similar to me and it is very easy to want to counsel/offer opinion on his journey.  One thing I have noticed is linked to the mechanisms we have put in place as a capitalist society that breed competitiveness and a significant attachment to success or failure of successful outcomes.  What is the issue with this? If your happiness is determined by outcomes, you are effectively settling for an up and down existence, with a heavy reliance on external factors out of your control.

Does this mean we should all stop trying to do our best and achieve.  Absolutely not, I fully endorse giving 100% to any effort you make and being fully committed, but that in itself is the definition of success.  The outcome is outcome, sometimes as you would like, sometimes not. It is what it is, but if you attach to the outcomes and this controls your life, you are in for a bumpy ride…

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Achieving without attachment

Success Insight – August Edition

Yes it’s that time again for another action packed edition of Success Insights, where we share latest insights, news and events with our community.

Click here to access Success Insight August 2011 edition

In this edition we look at:

• Recognising behaviour types
• Dealing with parental conflict

Click here to access Success Insight August 2011 edition

Enjoy!

Kind regards

Mark

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Success Insight – August Edition

Do you really love your partner……unconditionally?

The love word is bandied about these days with abandon.  I am of the firm belief that the majority of people are not in touch with what this really means; the separation and divorce stats as well as the number of unhappy relationships support this.

Why is this?  My view on this is that people are basing their relationships on shaky foundations, a conditional love.  A conditional love as it describes is based on set of conditions that are formed by an individual under which they will love someone and therefore commit to them.  Typical conditions would be expectations of how someone looks, how they behave, how they make you feel, how successful they are etc, etc.  Note the language in that it is all based on a conditional model that is formed.  Modern society does not help as it has encourages high expectations of what one should expect and what you deserve from a partner.

The problem with this type of love is that conditions change, people change, we all face challenges and scenarios which show us in a different light.

True love is based on unconditional love which is based demonstrated in many parent/child relationships, but is rare in adult/adult relationships.  It is unconstrained and unrelenting in its strength no matter what happens.

So questions yourself on the conditions you set on your partner in order for you to love them and look to rise above this to something much deeper

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Do you really love your partner……unconditionally?