For those of you who have been following my blog posts or know me well you will have gathered that I have been on a journey of discovery over the years;  I liken it to the story of Siddhartha, the famous, mythical recounting of the journey of enlightenment of the Buddha, who the story outlines went through a series of experiences and challenges before finally realising the understanding the truth and source of suffering.

As I know on a more practical level, from being employed in factories to solve “unsolvable problems”, getting to root cause of any problem is a challenging exercise but involves a few key approaches:

1)      Make sure you really understand the exact problem. To do this you need to be very specific on the actual problem and be hyper attentive, detailed and observant about the nature of the problem, until you totally understand the nature of the problem.  Not only will this ensure that you have a clear understand the problem you are trying to solve, but you will also be able to prove you have reached root cause as it will be able to explain the fll nature of the problem and alleviate the issues highlighted in point 2

2)      You need to understand that it is human nature to be side tracked by symptoms fixes, conjecture and opinions that side track your ability to find the root cause.  In very complex, multi-dimensional problems, it is very easy to get sidetracked by a relatively small lever.  The optimal way to overcome this is to firstly be able to build a clear and accurate model of all the factors that link to the problem you are trying to solve and have clarity on how they all interact to determine the critical levers, then to be able to measure the actual characteristics of these levers v what they should be doing.  You can then identify the levers and test these against the nature of the problem you are trying to solve.  You will have cracked it if you can accurately explain all of the problem as outlined in 1).  Of course, this is much easier in scientific, measurable problem arena and much harder in more esoteric problems, nevertheless the same principles can apply to guide to root cause.

My deep experience in problem solving, I now realise I have been applying over the last 10 years to a problem that was so complex, it has been an epic marathon that has tested me to the very core….

The problem being: what is the root cause of unhappiness?  I will be sharing with you my journey of discovery, the realisations  I have made along the way, and the root cause that I have discovered.

I believe that if enough people read this journey and then take the action I propose, the entire will go through a magnificent positive social change for individuals, all other  beings and the entire planet we live on.

Enjoy!

About Mark Taylor….

Being Your True Self

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Never being afraid to try new things, I went to an Ayshuasca Ceremony recently.  A friend of mine had participated in one when he was travelling in South America and recommeded it so when the opportunity came along I jumped at it.

You can find at all about it on the web, so I won’t go into detail here.  I found it a profound experience and did some great healing both on a physical and emotional level.

Physically, I can honestly say that I have a body free of pain after a lifetime of pain.  I don’t attribute all of this to the ceremony but it seemed to be the final piece of a large puzzle.

Similarly on an emotional healing level, I went very deep, very very deep and it was a supportive environment that allowed me to do this.

So good stuff.  On another note, I put in my application for Pathways to Manhood for October and looking forward to becoming a facilitator as well as doing my own initiation (the one I never had!)

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Ayahuasca Ceremony

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One of the things I have been building up to , which finally transpired was the open up some old stuff with les parents which I had pushed under the carpet.  I can imagine that many people have some element of conflict or unresolved issues with their upbringing so thought I would share the process I went through.

One of the drivers for me, was the realisation that I was in a cycle where these unresolved issues were creating a pattern of behaviour.  I also was becoming less connected with the parents and a great film “My Father” with Colin Firth really hit home that it would be a shame not to at least try and foster a stronger connection.

Now obviously anything involving family tends to evoke emotional responses and it is not easy to try and talk about things in a constructive manner, so here are some tips to share:

-        Work out your “why?”.  Is is coming from a constructive place or are you just looking to vent repressed emotion. If it is the latter, be careful as you are likely to get a defensive response

-        Remember that parents typically do the best they can do in the frame of reference they have at the time; it is very easy to judge especially as society changes, but try to be empathetic

-        Are you expecting your parents to change?  This is unlikely.  You are the one who is should be looking to change.  Take and own the situation, after all unresolved are simply your emotional connections to historical situations.

-        In following on from the above, I think the over-riding principle to have is one where you are looking for your parents to help you understand, build awareness etc.  It is not about them!!  If you are looking for help, you are parents are likely to be engaged, if you are looking to vent, tell them how bad they were as parents, what they need to do to change, you are coming at it from the wrong angle

All the above was linked to my own positioning, approach and intent which I think is the no 1 thing.  In terms of the mechanics, all I did was set up some quality one on one time in the right environment, mixed it in with some light hearted, shared activities and then asked the following questions as part of a shared experience:

-        Tell me about their life, the highs and lows from their perspective. A real “seek to understand” session

-        Asked them to give me their perception of my life journey, again focusing on my “highs and lows”

-        Finally I gave them my own account of my life journey

The rest naturally flowed from these questions.

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Resolving inner conflict with parents

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Although I will be keeping myself open this year, I do have some things bumbling on the horizon which I will share with you as they come to fruition.

First up is a 8 day yoga retreat with Glenn Ceresosi a well respected Iyengar Teacher and I know him on a personal level.  Glenn is known for breaking through boundaries and after 5 or so years of yoga, I am looking forward to using this time to go much deeper.

Then in March I am off to Adelaide to do a shamanic, Peruvian Ayahuasca ceremony.  I have been fascinated by this since a friend came back from South America raving about it.  Through some connections I made last year, I have somehow come across a group that have invited me to join them.  Not for everyone, and I am sure some people will have alot of preconceived ideas as it does involve some mind altering concoction.  Nevertheless, I am sure you will be interested in what happens!

I have also committed in October to become a facilitator in the Pathways To Manhood program, something close to my heart.  It will be a 5 day program, which will be the first step to being able to help young men make the transition to manhood and also connect with their father on a more meaningful level.  If you haven’t read “manhood” by Steve Biddild then it comes highly recommended; it explains alot of how society has created the men of today ( and many of their issues!)

Finally, I will going back to Acting, joining “The Actors Pulse”, not that I have any illusions of live performances, more as a environment to continue to build on my ability to be aware of, connect ot and be able to express emotions.

I am sure there will be some other spontaneous stuff that happens and of course, everyday life provides plenty of opportunity to learn and grow!

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About Mark Taylor….

My personal development plans for 2011

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I recently went to Peats Ridge Festival, which was great opportunity to try some new modalities in the personal development space.  The timetable was extensive with workshops all day long including all types of yoga, meditation, tantra, dance etc.  The “healing haven” program is below for you!  There was all another area for more dance orientated workshops which is below as well as a whole eco living suite of workshops.

So if you want to go on  a workshops frenzy there is a plenty of choice.

I particularly liked the kundalini dancing.  Not being a great natural dancer (especially sober!), loosing myself in the music at 10:30 in morning was liberating.  I seemed to be in a bit of a kundalini mode as I enjoyed the kundalini yoga too, and it was quite different to other forms of yoga I have done before with more of a focus on energy generation.

Laughter yoga didn’t do it for me.  The idea is that you do a number of forced exercises (i.e. pretend to be a lawnmower) until you eventually can laugh spontaneously which is a good for you.

Of course Peats ridge is not just about the workshops, so other aspects I really enjoyed included racing around the water pistol area (always good to act like a 5 year old.  Going mental in the sugar shack int he afternoon, a Xavier rudd type session in the chai tent, random drumming, a fantastic dance with young aboriginal kids; two cute gals singing open mic from a caravan and having the time of their lives  and best of all simply going with the flow, losing track of time and remembering spontaneity and lightness.

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Peats Ridge Festival

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I have had fantastic results curing RSI. After months of frustration with the approach of modern Western medicine, I made a full recovery within weeks as well as fixing a number of other long term injuries.

It was through the philosophy of Dr Sarno; summary below for you!!

“The Divided Mind — the Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders”

Let me say at once that this is not a book that everyone is going to appreciate. Some will find it, almost literally, a lifesaver. Others will regard it as offensive, insulting, and a complete waste of time.

Somewhere along the line, Sarno became interested in patients with non trauma based pain. He noticed that many of these patients had pain which did not respond to standard medical treatments, and that their pain was in any case was not related to any demonstrable injury. He came to the conclusion that, in many instances, this pain had a psychological and emotional basis, and he found that, when such patients were educated in the true cause of their pain, a large proportion of them recovered their health.

HOW IT WORKS

De Sarno is not saying that pain is ‘all in the mind’. Far from it. It’s real pain. What Sarno argues, in essence, is that in cases where there is no trauma based injury to account for the pain, then there must be some other cause. His explanation in those cases in order to avoid dealing with powerful unconscious emotions, the unconscious diverts the conscious mind’s attention by causing physical pain in the body.  It does this by bringing a tension in the muscles by depriving them of oxygen. And Sarno’s major contribution to medicine is that he has found a way to treat such patients with a high degree of success.

RESISTANCE

Only 10 to 15 % of people with this condition are likely to accept a pyschosomatic diagnosis as in general patients themselves are quite amazingly resistant to any idea that there might be a link between their physical health problems and their past and present emotions. Patients, like most orthodox doctors and modern medicine in general, believe in the separation of mind and body.

The preference for most people is to rely on finding the right people and for many people there is, apparently, something deeply insulting and offensive about the idea that unconscious emotions are the source of their physical pain 

For more information and the full article, please click on the link below, and if you do have pain, keep your mind open!!!

The Divided Mind

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How To Overcome Pain – Dr Sarno Philosophy

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By: Mark Taylor – Managing Director – Keys To Success Club

It has certainly been an interesting six months since my last post.  Sometimes in life you need to go backwards to move forwards.

The two things that I’ve learned in the last six months is the importance of staying in your truth and secondly the importance of letting go.

Staying in your truth

The key question here is how often do you really stay in your truth?  To be able to stay in your truth represents the greatest challenge as-in means not only do you have to really know who you are and what you stand for, but you also need to be prepared to show this to the world whilst of course respecting others in the process.  You also have to face some real insights to yourself that Are not always pretty.

Letting go

I’ve had to face some major challenges in the last six months with certain elements not going according to plan.  In some of the instances I’ve had to face up to full accountability which has been painful at times and a great way to depower the ego.

Letting go does not been becoming a vegetable.  It is more about keeping things in perspective and being much more flexible with the ever changing landscape that we find ourselves in.

 One of the end results of this journey for me is that I have to really connect well with my heart not with my mind.  Whilst it has had been one of the most difficult periods for me, as I have really let myself be totally exposed and vulnerable at times, I am full of optimism because I now feel I can release my full power through better connection with myself and others around me.  Will let you know how I get on!

Living in the truth

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If you across any of the stuff I have been producing recently then you will know that it has been a pretty intense period for me over the last month or see.

I am fine with that as it is linked to my passion, therefore I have no issue with working hard.   What I have to be careful of though is making sure I keep my balance by also adding in quality time with friends, familly and me!

The first part of that is actually making the time, the second part is actually being present in the time you allocate.

I am doing okay and seem to be able to compartmentalise enough that I keep in a good place.

Having said that I can’t deny that I am looking foward to a break over Christmas…

Keeping Life Balance

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This is an interesting question.  Over the years I have oscillated between being the social lynchpin of a community to a social hermit.

I have noticed that there people that seem to organise people and events and others or seem to just to go them.

After a period of hermit, I decided I should go and organise an event and put a huge amount of time, effort and personl $ into a house party.

Did, I enjoy the event; well to be honest my main focus was on everyone else having a good time and the clean up (with no help) was pretty brutal and it is easy to think; why bother.  Also generally the feedback or apparent appreciation was relatively low even though I know people had a good time.

So, why bother? Well here are a few reasons to ponder:

• Are you a giver or a taker? 
• Is everyone chose not to bother, then nothing would ever happen?
• If you are organising an event, are you doing it for you or for other people?  It makes a difference.
• What do you do to build a strong community of friends around you?

I will show you a few photos of the event in another blog post as can’t be serious all the time!

So, what should my next social get together be;

Organising Social Events?

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So, from now on – ” no holds barred” warts and all.

The theme of today’s post is the importance of the people you spend time with and the impact of this on your personal wellbeing.

Try this.  Think carefully about who you want to  and how you want to be. Then look at all the people you spend time with at home, at work, when you are out socialising.  How many of them represent the direction you want to head in?

I constantly find this a struggle and because I wear so many hats, if I am honest, it would be less than 5%.

What is the problem with this?  Well, you are much less likely to be inspired, interested and motivated.  Even gone out and felt a bit flat or empty with the conversation?  Go into the work environment and get tired very quickly.

You are misaligned.  If you were aligned you would find a real sense of purpose and be happy in the moment you are in, not looking for the next, better moment!

It becomes particularly if you are “trapped” in a 9 to 5 job when you have mentally decided that you are destined for something different; your mind is somewhere else and you have a heart conflict which can be very tough.

What to do about it. 

1. The first is awareness.  Know what you are about, where you are heading.
2. Next actively build relationships with people who are on or ahead of you on a similar path
3. Finally, don’t be afraid to cull or back off from relationships that are misaligned; don’t fall for the trap of legacy reasons

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