Parenthood – a path to enlightenment?

Parenthood brings with it many new experiences and circumstances.  I find it fascinating how many different attitudes people have with it.  I believe it is a great magnifier of who you are and the journey you are on.

If your attitude is a “what’s in it for me?” type approach then you are probably in for some tough times.  Babies by their very nature are in a basic needs type of mentality and children as they go through various stages have various stages of self orientation.  What this means is that unless you let go and give (without immediate return), parenthood is likely to come with underlying disgruntlement and negativity.

This can particularly impact the male ( who often has the biggest ego) who has to adjust to a situation where in reality he comes a distant third after the children and the wife. It is a dramatic role change and is of course demanding.

Does this mean both the mother and father need to sacrifice everything about themselves and take on a pure service mentality.  Not in my mind.  It is better to think of it as a team play; do what is best for the overall wellbeing of the team and the right decisions and priorities should flow naturally.

If parenthood can be harnessed in this way, it can be a very powerful tool for personal growth as it enables you to transcend egoic, self-orientated behaviour, develop unconditional love and help you on a path to enlightenment

About Mark Taylor….

Parenthood – a path to enlightenment?

Assertive / Constructive  Behaviour

Description

This is when you are able to express your true feelings, both negative and positive, without apology.  You say what you mean in an honest, direct and appropriate / constructive style and in a manner that does not violate someone’s rights.  You have the confidence to say what you want and repeat it until heard 

Short-term Outcomes

• Some conflict between you and others especially if they are not comfortable or find assertiveness threatening
• Feelings of doubt about your right to assert yourself
• Feelings of self respect and confidence
• Honesty in relationship with others

Potentially longer term outcomes

• Relationships based on honesty and mutual respect
• Personal relationships terminated when not based on honesty and mutual respect
• Feelings of confidence, authenticity and independence

About Mark Taylor….

Assertive / Constructive  Behaviour

Public Speaking Tips

2.    CELEBRATE.

The ‘Nay sayers” are already mouthing 

“celebrate what – I’m not yet the best speaker I could be”. 

And I say, “we are all a work in progress, we all are best to take feedback & have the trust, courage and confidence to learn”.

Celebrate your energy to get out there and be well prepared and with good intention, open your mouth to deliver the material you know that you know. Celebrate that your mistakes allow you to have something tangible to take to mentoring and develop the specific skill set to achieve the result you want. Celebrate that your audience respects your position in delivering to them.

Celebrate that you are a wonderful learner and it means that you choose to see yourself as successful and acquire the coaching or skill set to do just that – everything is possible.

Tis the season to be jolly, to speak fully and to have a sense of joy, humour and achievement.

And to relax and know that there is always another day to speak…..

 About Tric Gibson

Tric is nationally recognized as an inspiring, passionate & compelling public and motivational speaker, who also knows exactly how to teach those skills.With 30 years professional experience, she is a recognized authority in communication training.  http://www.tricgibson.com/

Public Speaking Tips

Indirect or Passive – Aggressive Behaviour

Description

This is when you manipulate the situation to get what you want.  Techniques would include saying yes and doing otherwise, spinning situations, pretending and making excuses.

Short-term Outcomes

• Feelings of power and success
• Desired outcome achieved
• Feeling of dishonesty and sneakiness
• Chance of being misunderstood

Potentially longer term outcomes

• Relationships built on deceit and manipulation
• Web of dishonesty to cover past deceits
• Reputation of insincerity and deception
• Feelings of helplessness and frustration

How the snake handles other styles

The snake will easily manipulate the mouse.  The snake will be able to trick the bull. The snake will be threatened by the King who can easily expose him.

About Mark Taylor….

Indirect or Passive – Aggressive Behaviour

Passive, Aggressive Behaviour

One of the areas I am becoming more and more aware of is the dangerous behavioural style called “passive aggressive behaviour” and it is more prevalent than we might initially think, both within others around us and ourselves.

We are all aware of type A or aggressive behaviour and this of course can be a challenging behaviour, but its main positive is that it is normally very transparent, direct and obvious.

Passive-aggressive behaviour is an altogether more subtle behaviour which is its secret weapon.  SO what is it?

I define it as behaviour which is manipulative and cowardly in behaviour.  People will say one thing, but mean another. Say different things to you than to other people and in reality very aggressive and destructive in their behaviour, but through passive means, hence the term passive-aggressive.

For me it is linked to a lack of truth, authenticity, and personal courage and causes alot of damage in society.

So, take a look at your own behaviour.  Do you stay in your truth or do you play games to get your way.  Does a lack of courage prevent you from saying what you really feel? 

When you come across it from someone else, you need to pull them up and make sure they know that stand for constructive, open behaviour.

Good luck!!

About Mark Taylor….

Passive, Aggressive Behaviour