Secret Of Happiness

Not sure why I felt like talking about happiness, but sometimes it is better just to go with an intuition rather than question it.  I have been questioning aspects on the mainstream society we have created.  We have much more choice, but does this make us happy or just more overloaded.  We have many more things and access to more info, but at what price?

Here are some thought starters…

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This is only an opinion as I am not a trained psychologist, but my opinion from personal experience and observation is that addictions are a mask for underlying issues and the basic human need articulated by the Buddha as either a “desire” or “aversion”.  Addiction gives a temporary respite from whatever place we are in, a promise of moments of increased happiness.  So we follow our inherent drivers and replace pain with pleasure.

What is so bad about this?  Well, what goes up  must go down and overall the net is further down, especially as allowing our addiction to have its way when we, from our intellectual perspective, know it is the wrong action, further diminishes our overall self worth.

Secondly, with repetition, the pleasure derived from our addiction diminishes, so we constantly look for bigger hits to achieve the same result which can escalate very quickly from a minor addiction to a major addiction.

There is a great quote from the movie Candy which sums this concept up well.  “ When you can stop you don’t want to, and when you want to you are not able to”

So, the secret here is first of all to have high levels of awareness for when your actions are tipping into addictive in nature, and then look to the real root cause and addresses this… of course follow the Buddha philosophy you would find a place where you were free from aversion and desire and then you would be free and happy no matter happened to you.

In the event that this nirvana is not yet in your grasp, look for the cause of your happiness and try and take some positive action to resolve the issue or change your perspective on the situation, or just go out and do something positive (even if it is the last thing you might feel like doing).

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This is the first of two post around the subject of addicts and addiction.  Why this topic; well I am a firm believer that many of us of addicts in some shape and form and the realisation of this is the first step to step changed your own wellbeing and happiness.
So, first of all let us look at what we mean by an addict.
An addict is someone who is unable to exist without their focus of addiction.  The addictive behaviour is at its strongest when the person is at their weakest, and so is best spotted when people are down, under pressure etc.
What “ I am not a heroin addict” I hear you say, but let us take a closer look because just because you are not an extreme drug addict may not mean you are not showing all the same symptoms.  Let us check out a few other thought starters…
- “ I can’t go without my coffee in the morning”
- “When ever I get down I go straight for the chocolate”
- “ I need that beer or glass of wine when I go out”
- “ I am a self confessed gym junkie”
- “ I zone out to brain-dead television. What is wrong with that?”
- “ I am an adrenalin junkie always searching for my next thrill”
- “ I am what you call a sex addict”
- “ I am always searching for the next adventure”
- “ I am always working”
- “ I am addicted to shopping”
Interesting when you think about it.    Of course there are different levels of addiction, but if I am true to myself I would be able to tick over half of these categories, and from an outsiders perspective, I would probably be referred to as “normal”, I could of course be totally wrong on this and am simply delusional.

Another sign of addiction is when you do the exact opposite of what would be the best for you in that precise moment.
In my next post we will look at what lies behind addiction and how addiction can be replaced by freedom

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A good friend of mine inspired me to add a heap more rawness to my blogs; he is a big fan of “the truth” and feels that keeping it real and personal keeps it much more interesting and insightful…

So, from now on – ” no holds barred” warts and all.

The theme of today’s post is the importance of the people you spend time with and the impact of this on your personal wellbeing.

Try this.  Think carefully about who you want to  and how you want to be. Then look at all the people you spend time with at home, at work, when you are out socialising.  How many of them represent the direction you want to head in?

I constantly find this a struggle and because I wear so many hats, if I am honest, it would be less than 5%.

What is the problem with this?  Well, you are much less likely to be inspired, interested and motivated.  Even gone out and felt a bit flat or empty with the conversation?  Go into the work environment and get tired very quickly.

You are misaligned.  If you were aligned you would find a real sense of purpose and be happy in the moment you are in, not looking for the next, better moment!

It becomes particularly if you are “trapped” in a 9 to 5 job when you have mentally decided that you are destined for something different; your mind is somewhere else and you have a heart conflict which can be very tough.

What to do about it. 

1. The first is awareness.  Know what you are about, where you are heading.
2. Next actively build relationships with people who are on or ahead of you on a similar path
3. Finally, don’t be afraid to cull or back off from relationships that are misaligned; don’t fall for the trap of legacy reasons

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In today’s post, we are going to take a look at the qualities of a good leader.  Leadership is a vital aspect of personal development, of you are truly going to follow your passions and be able to get others to follow with you to make a real difference.

What qualities should you be working on to develop your own leadership qualities?

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